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Seriously, this is what you need to do.

Read the entire thing.

It’s short. It’s fun. It’s helpful. It’s honest. It’s insightful. It’s real. So grab your hair scrunchies and give yourself the best shot at finding love you’ve ever had. I’ve got you covered on every level, but before we dive in, I thought you should know why this works.

Why Modern Dating Works

Modern dating works because technology allows us to be very selective and very picky about what we put out into the universe. As much as I love the idea of having a relationship and sharing a life with someone, I’ve never been one to go on lengthy drunken nights of drunkenly making out in the back of a minivan and going to see stupid bands. I’ve seen them do it, and I’ve seen the results of their epic bottoms-of-the-barrel nights of debauchery, and it’s not worth it. I just don’t have the time, the patience, or the night vision.

As cool and desirable as it would be to meet someone under the influence of muscle relaxants and marijuana, it’s not something I would be willing to put myself through again. I’ve had my eye on my own past-time of online dating for years, and I haven’t been dating anyone seriously for six months and have no intention to start now. It takes too much time, effort, and energy, and it doesn’t always result in an actual relationship.

Making connections online, or anywhere else for that matter, is an immediate and somewhat spontaneous process, a technological amalgamation of the old and the new. It was easier to meet someone when you only had to look for someone who met your criteria. You could be rejected and move on to the next person without any muss or fuss. Nowadays, your prospects are considerably slimmer because of more filters than ever before: You need to choose which platforms and apps you want to use, you need to spend more time browsing than you do talking, and you need to spend more time getting to know someone than you do having sex.

But let’s be honest. A lot of us don’t want to go on the far end of the “scan a room full of people” scale. I like being able to get right into a conversation with someone I like without having to worry about massive amounts of back-and-forth, or wasting my time until
The first step: Read, read, read

Before you do anything else, you should read the rest of this guide. Put the book aside for a day and follow the tips below to see how they work for you. And then make another appointment to bring back a few more. There are some dating tips that won’t seem that impactful at first, but, once you’ve realized how they work, you’ll be surprised by how they can make a difference in your life. If you’re in a social setting, you can ask your dates for their feedback on this article. And if you want to get to know them better without revealing too much, feel free to just use the tips below to steer the conversation in a good direction.

1) Be selective

Dating is a numbers game: The more potential mates you meet and the more you’re open to meeting, the more likely you are to find a match. Set yourself up for success by building your personal portfolio of available suitors. This first step will likely be the hardest one for introverts, but you can take every relationship you’re interested in seriously by creating a plan and a list of pros and cons.

Start by reaching out to people you want to be friends with. Ask them if they know any people that you should meet. Your friends will be the ones who have real-life experience you can mimic. Next, start a calendar with a clear description of who you are looking for, along with your unique interests and hobbies. An online dating site can be a great help, since your profiles can highlight many aspects of yourself.

2) Practice first

If you’re not a confident person to begin with, going on dates isn’t going to be easy, so it’s important to start slow. If you know that you’re a bit socially awkward or don’t have a great sense of humor, you can still find dates. Some people aren’t afraid of speaking out loud about their thoughts and opinions, even when they’re a bit strange. Ask your friends who you think are cool, and if they like someone they think you should meet, ask them to set you up. Talking to other people about dating can be helpful, especially if you make a habit of doing it. Soon, your friends will get to know you as someone who’s not afraid to have opinions and would rather listen to other people rather than just talking for the sake of talking.

3) Just be yourself

If you’re just being